BREAKING IT TO HIM GENTLY: Rejection at its subtlest

Hard isn't it. To shake off some guy you're totally not interested with as anything but friends and yet he still doesn't take the hint.

Here's a fact. No matter how you put it, Rejection will always be a big blow to a guy's ego. And the "Just like you as a friend" isn't going to be of any consolation either. But is there any way to atleast, minimize the damage to the "bustee"?

This has been the dilemma of most "nice girls" who just don't know how to say no... The right way without atleast unleashing the hidden psycho out of most guys. For us seemingly "not-so-nice" girls, this is just as easy as saying "Back off!". But for those who think the word "No" is a little harsh, Here's what you can do.

Well, this all depends on the situation at hand so most might not apply but anyway, here goes.

1. The whole "I got a boyfriend" trick. This has been the oldest trick in the rulebook. Now, this would work if the creepo happens to be some stranger hitting on you in some bar. I would also suggest that you wear a gold ring around your finger and flash it on to him. But if the guy happens to be in your trail since Junior High, this just wouldn't work. The guy probably even knows you well enough.

2. If a guy you are not exactly interested with suddenly comes up to you and asks your number, you don't have to be compelled to give him your digits. Instead, ask him to give him your number and you can call him up since you're too busy to take his call or text him back because of whatever. (Works well with creepos in the bar too.)

3. Keep your distance. If you get too touchy-feely and laugh with him and see him often, you'll only reinforce his feelings for you and you're just giving him false hopes. Keep it up for a week or two and he'll just get tired of bugging you.

4. If you're squirmish about saying "No, I'm just not interested." Make something up!

Take your pick:

See # 1,

"I'm lesbian."

"I just got off a terrible relationship and dating is the least of my priorities right now."

"I'm married to my job"

"I'm married."

Though a guy will not necessarily buy this excuse, atleast he'll get the picture.

5. Sometimes the whole "You remind me of my brother" Sounds pretty synonymous to "Can we just be friends?" But then sometimes, this often works with me.

6. Sometimes, a little meanness won't hurt that much. If you keep on putting on that "Ms. Nicey Wisey" mask on, the more you'll just reinforce his affections towards you. Be yourself and throw on a little meanness or repulsivity in. Just a hint of meanness. Make him turn-around-and-walk-away in his own accord. That way, you don't have to turn him down yourself.

7. If all else fails, then you don't have any other option but to break it to him. Firmly but gently. I usually say this to a guy when I'm not interested (usually, I need the help of a little alcohol to say it out loud.) "Look. You're really a nice guy and any girl would like to have someone like you. But the thing is, i'm not like any girl. I may be passing out on a once in a life time opportunity but I'll take my chances. This isn't going to work out. I don't think I'm the one you're looking for. So i'm sorry. I'm not interested." Then I stop seeing the guy. I know how it feels hanging out with someone you really like and your feelings just don't get reciprocated. I do hate that kind of torture.

8. Sometimes, some guys are just too thick to get a hint. If this happens, Then you'll have to take it up a notch. Lay it out to him, no holds barred. be a little firmer this time. Be cold if you can. That way, he REALLY gets the picture.

You see, I was a nice girl back in highschool but people like the one I'm talking about in #8 just gets in my nerves sometimes when they're really persistent like cant-take-a-hint persistent so, sometimes, a little meanness helps if they just don't seem to get a clue. hope this helps.